Bond.  Girls.  Bond Girls.

Living like a gentleman spy means getting the girl. But for many men, trouble getting women is one of their pitfalls. While some men seem to naturally attract any woman they want, millions of others are left unsatisfied; forever single or stuck in bad relationships with girls they aren’t really attracted to because they think she’s the best they can do.

It’s time to change the game.

It's time to get the girl of your dreams.

The art of pickup has gotten a lot of press lately, some good, some bad. Stories abound of guys going to seminars or joining “pickup communities” with the idea of going out and tricking as many women into sleeping with them as possible. That’s not the kind of thing you’re going to learn here, and it’s not something you should aspire to.

James Bond isn’t the type to have to fool a woman into sleeping with him, and neither are you.

This isn’t about learning a dozen routines and running game against unsuspecting women.

The art of seduction is the art of becoming the type of guy women want to date.

“I’m not the type of guy women want to date” you say? Look at what you’re learning here in this program.

• You’re hitting the gym and building a better body.
• You’re upgrading your style and dressing better.
• You’re learning how to communicate and lead the conversation.
• You’re learning cool skills.

You ARE the kind of guy that women want to date! You just need to convey this information to them in a way that resonates.

From Neil Strauss’ “Rules of the Game” to Tynan’s “Make Her Chase You,” countless books on pickup and seduction have been written. Some of the first parts of the books are inevitably dedicated to changing your style. Dressing better, upgrading your personal style with haircuts or better grooming, hitting the gym, getting a tan, etc.

Good news: if you’ve been following the Gentleman Spy program for any length of time, you’re already in the process of upgrading those areas of your life.

In the social engineering section, you have already covered becoming a better communicator. You’re learning how to drive the conversation and you’re gaining an understanding of how your body language affects how those around you perceive you.

Now you’re going to tweak all those skills toward the specific goal of getting the girl.

In the social engineering section, you learned how to approach anybody, but many guys still approach beautiful women differently.

Approach anxiety is one of the most limiting things for most guys, especially if you’re a bit shy.

Pickup lines exist because most guys aren’t confident opening a conversation, but they’re not necessary. Recall the stories from the Social Engineering module about Tynan running his shopping cart into a girl’s cart, or Marcus betting the flight attendant a kiss if she could guess his seat number. Countless stories like this abound in the pickup communities because they all do the same thing – they create a moment that the girl isn’t likely to forget. Thankfully, none of these have to be elaborate. Often, a “Hi, my name is                and I just had to meet you,” delivered confidently while looking her in the eyes with a smile is more than enough to open a beautiful woman up to you.

As you covered in the previous section, all you’re doing here is dropping hooks. You need to get out there and start approaching as many people as possible. From the beautiful single mom at the supermarket to the “perfect 10″ at the club – go up, smile, look them in the eyes, and say hi. The worst that can happen is that your approach doesn’t resonate with them, in which case you have another data point to learn from. But if they do open up, you’ve met another beautiful woman.

Of special note here is that even if a woman isn’t sexually interested in you, it is often worthwhile to maintain a friendship with them. Developing a friendship with these beautiful women, those who are used to rejecting dozens of guys every day, can yield countless benefits. From a better understanding of her mindset, to hearing what all the other guys are doing wrong, to meeting her equally beautiful friends, everything about these friendships is a bonus for you. Do not feel like her lack of sexual interest in you is necessarily a bad thing.

After opening, the biggest problem most guys make is not expressing their sexual interest.

“The Friend Zone.” It’s joked about everywhere. It’s where nice guys get stuck while the girl of their dreams goes and sleeps with the bad boy.

Not any longer.

The reason so many guys end up stuck in the friend zone is that they haven’t appropriately conveyed their sexual interest in a woman. They play it safe and stick to uninspiring conversation that guarantees they won’t be rejected. It also guarantees that you won’t progress the way you want.

But how, and when, do you let a woman know you’re interested?

In some cases, this will be clear by the way you approach, or because of mutual signaling before you’ve ever even spoken (seductive eye contact from across the room, etc.). In any case, there are signals that a woman will give off that she’s interested in you. These signals must be met with an appropriate response.

When a woman is holding your eye contact, filling in the gaps in conversation, you’re getting a big, genuine, real smile from her, and she’s pointing her hips at you, these are all good signs that she is attracted and interested in you. And you need to reciprocate.

Expressing your interest can be as simple as an “I like you” or “I’m attracted to you,” but it’s often the non-verbal cues that will give you the most passionate response. During a lull in the conversation when you’re not saying anything, you should be looking into her eyes. Slowly drop your gaze down to her lips and hold it there for a few seconds before slowly moving back up to her eyes. Done properly, this is incredibly seductive and there’s little chance for it being mistaken for anything but an “I want to sleep with you right now” look.

Along with the verbal and simple body language cues for expressing your interest in a woman, the power of touch — along with sustained eye contact — is one of the most powerful tools you have.

But you might have to relearn a few things here. A woman you're interested in is not your buddy from work, not one of your friends that you can grab, shake, or be rough with.

When touching a woman, your touch should be so soft that it’s almost not there. Your hand should just brush against her arm, or leg, or barely rest against the small of her back. Unless things are getting hot and heavy, less is more here.

Like the signals you send off with your touch, she does the same thing. Whether it’s a flick of her hair, a brush of her wrist, or a playful touchy-feeliness throughout your conversation, any of these signals mean she’s interested in you.

Of special note is the breast brush. If she had more than enough room to pass by you without touching you, but she instead passes in a way that her breasts brush against you, this is an almost sure-fire sign that she’s interested in you. If you haven’t made your move and approached her by this point, make sure to do so now.

How many times have you hugged a girl? This could be a friend, a new acquaintance, or somebody you’re on a date with. You got a hug, but she didn’t make the move to go in for a kiss. Disregarding the fact that it’s your job to go in for the kiss in the first place, how many of you have settled for the hug and nothing else?

If you think “it’s just a hug,” then it’s time to step up your understanding of it.

When you’re hugging a woman, you want to make sure your bodies are close and touching — not the shoulder hug, not the chests together but bodies apart friend hug, but a whole body, intimate hug. Don’t be in a rush to let go, but stay in there for a bit.

Now, synchronize your breathing. When she breathes in, you breathe in. When she breaths out, you breathe out. There is something about synchronized breathing — in a hug, or while you’re lying next to each other — that increases the intimacy of the moment and massively amplifies her attraction to you. Give this a try and the results will amaze you.

It could happen early on in the conversation, or after a few dates. Maybe you’ve taken her out a few times and you think things are going well. Then suddenly she drops the bomb on you: “There’s no way I’m sleeping with you tonight” or “I’m not sure I’m interested in you that way. You’re too [young, old, poor, rich, etc.].”

At this point, most guys begin trying to sell themselves, or the relationship. “But I really like you. We’ve had fun together. Things are so good. Etc.” Sorry buddy, your relationship just ended. You just lost the girl.

But if you can blow this off — treat her comment like it’s a non-issue — you’ll see a completely different response.

If your response is more “Well, okay. So, how’s that thing [at her job, with her friends, her new interest, etc.] going?” you’ll probably see a much different response. You just passed her test.

This is her "shit test." She is testing for herself whether you're the man she needs you to be, of if you're going to buckle under pressure and she'll have to take up the slack. These tests will happen again, and again. And the more beautiful women you start to date, the more often it will happen.

These are the tests and qualifiers she has put in place to weed out the flakes or the guys who are only in it for the short-term, the possessive guys from the confident guys, the winners from the losers.

Being the winner means being in control of your life and your journey. You don't want to chase her, and you don't need her to chase you, but she needs to know you're in control of your life and the direction you're going.

Like she will be testing you, you should be testing her.

Just as she doesn’t want a clingy guy who’s always asking where she’s been, you don’t want a clingy, nagging girlfriend or wife.

There should always be behaviors that she knows are off-limits. Whether it’s spending too much money shopping, going out clubbing all the time, being overly possessive, bossy, nit-picking, or cheating — she must know that if she crosses the lines you’ve put in place, that you will leave her.

She needs to know that you can get a woman like her — or better — any time you want. Women do not respect men who are not able to seduce women of their caliber or higher.

This isn’t the kind of thing you need to rub in her face. If you need to mention it, then you don’t have it.

She should know by the way you carry yourself, the way other women look at you (and the way you can look at them), that she must continue to be worthy of your attention. Just like you are worthy of hers.

One of the biggest complaints of women these days is that the men they’re interested in don’t make the first move and don’t escalate.

Women like sex as much as guys do, but most women don’t want to be thought of as easy or as sluts, so they’re waiting for the man to make the moves. Moves that never come.

Far too many guys seem to be waiting for the perfect opportunity; waiting for the girl to tell them what to do.

Stop wasting time and opportunities.

Gentlemen, it is your job to approach her, your job to learn her name, her interests, hobbies, fears, and desires. It’s your job to plan the dates and lead the seduction. It’s your job to get her into your house and into your bed.

If you’ve done even a fraction of the Gentleman Spy program, you are a cool, interesting, fun guy. You are worthy or her attention, and her affection. You don’t need to trick a girl into sleeping with you or feel like this is some kind of ungentlemanly thing to do. If you’re doing your part, she does want to have sex with you. Your job is to make sure she gets what she wants.

Guys often refer to this as “playing games.” It could just as easily be described as “giving girls the experience they want.” Gentlemen – give women the experience they want.